More and more couples decide to choose a celebrant-led wedding ceremony.
Part of my job as a planner is to give couples wedding planning advice
and guide them through the process, helping them through different choices of vendors,
style of wedding or type of ceremony, just to mention few.
So I've asked independent celebrant Jennifer Patrice to tell us her top 9 reasons why
this type of ceremony is getting its popularity.
"A celebrant conducts a Wedding Celebration Ceremony, which has all the elements of a wedding,
apart from the legal formalities (which couple carry out at their local Register Office).
Having a celebrant means your wedding ceremony it's personalised. It can be the way they want it to be: it's their day their way.
I love to take the couple's relationship history and turn it into their wedding ceremony.
They have a wedding party, they can write their own vows or have religious content if they wish to,
Have the songs/readings that they really like and include loved ones by having symbolic elements.
The choices are varied and many: for example they could light a unity candle together, a hand fasting ritual or sand pouring, at the end of which the couple signs a certificate"
"No two ceremonies are the same, as every couple is different, every relationship is different,
which makes it all more interesting and exciting.
My ceremonies are very heartfelt and include families, particularly mums, if they don't mind :-).
I've been told that my ceremonies are loving, sincere, fun-delivered with warmth and calm,
which is exactly what I hope to provide for all my couples".
"When couples book me, we have an initial chat on the phone, after which I send them a questionnaire
of 20-30 questions to complete separately.
I always tell them that I am trusting them not to share their answers with each other,
as it's nice for them to get to know each other answers when they first hear it during their wedding ceremony.
In a different moment I meet the couple, so I can see the "X" factor between them,
and afterwards I meet them individually: this way they have the chance to talk as freely as they wish about their feelings for each other".
"Generally I always ask them if they would like to write their vows and quite actively encourage them to do so.
Sometimes they are reluctant and that's ok, because yes, I am always willing to help and advise,
even if it's day or the morning of "
7) IDEALLY AT WHAT STAGE OF THE WEDDING PLANNING DO YOU ADVICE
THE COUPLE TO MEET YOU?
Whenever is convenient for them really, but, ideally, 3 to 6 months beforehand,
so that we can build a relationship and rapport.
By the time we have met for our first meeting, we will have spoken on the phone and via email a few times,
so the will know about the process.
It feels a bit like friends meeting for a chat and possibly something to drink or eat.
When we do meet, however often that is, it's pretty relaxed, although I'm always taking mental notes..
I always remind them that whatever they say, jokes, teasing, is a fair game for the script
and that's a lot of fun.
For me seeing them together helps me to write their personality into their script,
which is so important.
Couples give their notice of intention to marry at their local Register Office,
where the legal ceremony should take place within 12 months of doing so.
If I am conducting a destination wedding ceremony, or if I have couples coming in UK from abroad,
I advise them to take care of the legal formalities in their home country which makes the whole process so much smoother.
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